| Cultural Differences: Not Wearing Shoes in the House: Go Green |
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| Thursday, August 25, 2011 |
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I remember the first time my husband, Ferdinand, then just a friend, asked me to take my shoes off after we had entered his house. I just looked at him in amazement as to why I should remove my amazing pair of adorable, red, ½ inch heeled, slip on, Italian pumps. They completed my outfit, made me feel accessorized, they were red, my favourite color for shoes because they stated “here I am.”
After some seconds of staring at him, watching him change into house slippers, and then noticing other shoes in the entryway, I asked him to clarify. He’s not a man of words or details so he just said, “ya”. Not really understanding or wanting to take my shoes off, I just started inside with my shoes on. He stopped me and repeated, “you take your shoes off.” Can you believe we ended up marrying??? I again asked for more details. He then explained, “because you leave your shoes here.” Very German with his short and direct imperative sentences, isn’t he! My son & husband below, cuties, eh!
Imagine having such a love of shoes that you own some 68 pairs (that’s 136 shoes), then you move to a country that hasn’t any real appreciation of shoes, only treating their shoes as a sole means of comfort and even exiling them from homes. Hello culture shock!
For the health of your children and family, especially babies or toddlers; why you shouldn’t wear shoes in the house
Further lovely reasons why to go shoeless in the home
Also, when I attended my mother-in-law’s classroom, in Germany, she is an elementary school teacher, I observed a no shoe policy at her school. All the children entered the school, and before entering classrooms or walking around the school, they immediately change into slippers which are stored in their lockers.
It took me nearly a year to understand this cultural difference. In the end, I not only understood it, appreciated it, but more than accepted it. Now that we live in the states, I have implemented the rule of no shoe wearing in our home. I even became fanatic about it after having my son. I’m a big believer in adopting different cultural practices when they are better than your own cultural norm. Personally, we love to not wear shoes around in our home. Everyone has “inside” Birks or house slippers to wear. However, while we have the no-shoe (or rather no “street shoe”) policy in the home, we don’t ask guests to take their shoes off when visiting.
Thanks to my German family for opening up this cultural awareness and the Stoops for giving me this idea to write about. Still not convinced? Then, check this reference out, Good Morning America. ‘Wisemommies’ |









Comments
I'm with this in theory. However, the neighbor kids run in and out, my husband tromps in with his combat boots and it hurts my feet and back to stand on the tile very long without my Birks.
Actually, did you know that Birks were invented in Germany? Germans wear Birks as inside house slippers.Then they have another pair for wearing outside the home.
I also agree that you can't stop the neighborhood kids from running in and out with shoes on their feet....or the hubby. We don't ask our friends or neighbors take their shoes off when they come over, here in the States...in Germany, everyone just did. However, most of my friends, and their children, have started taking their shoes off when they come over. Some have said that they do feel more at home.
Just as a family, we all have house slippers for inside. Your husband doesn't wear his combat boots insdie the home, does he? I would think he would be more comfortable slipping into a pair of house slippers as well.
Thanks for your feedback. It's nice to hear that you are with this idea in theory. It took me awhile to adapt to my husband's culture difference, but now I love it!
I was wondering if maybe more up North, where it is colder, it might be more common to leave shoes at the door/mud room? Here in the south, it just isn't.
I'm so used to taking my shoes off now, that I could never do it any other way. Thanks for your feedback. I'm glad you like the post, that means a lot to me! Wisemommies
I have noticed a few comments that include being sensitive to others.
Now that my parents are in their 70's and my Mom's feet swell, I can appreciate the need to bend the rule for some people. She has a hard time actually getting her shoes on and will have a very difficult time removing them and then putting them on again when she leaves. I appreciate your ideas and practice, but I think it can't be a hard and fast rule for us. I would not be honoring and loving my Mom if I required it.
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Dear Sue,Birks originated in Germany for the reason of creating shoes that were comfortable, “healthy” for the feet to wear (meeting needs for those who have to or want to always wear shoes), and also good for wearing as a slipper inside the home. That is what we do in our home. I agree with you that guests should always feel respected, and guests in my home always feel welcomed. As mentioned in earlier comments, we actually only do the no-shoe wearing as a family, and we never ask our guests to take their shoes off. We are on the same page with you, a grand theory for the family, but not necessarily respectful asking guests not culturally used to the idea. You can maybe see by the start of my story, I was also, at one time, uncomfortable with the idea.
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Dear Angela,It’s nice to see other Americans doing the same. I’ve thought about providing slippers for guests but haven’t because we still aren’t sure that all guests would be comfortable with this? Nice to see that it is working out for you. What or how do you ask guests to change into your slippers provided?
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Love to see that you have inside and outside Birks. That is exactly what they do in Germany and what we do!!
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